http://www.icame.com/wordpress Personal Experiences about Sex, Life, Love, Romance & Relationships Sat, 05 Jul 2008 03:33:09 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en   Hi. A while back, I was chronicling the life of a very confused individual. Gender, sexuality, and identity were all at war with each other for the control of two seemingly separate people sharing the same body. I couldn't do it forever, and so the transition revealed itself. One by ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/07/04/coming-out-to-your-family/ Some three or so months ago, I began turning my gender-confused thoughts into gender-confused writing. I knew I liked being Erin more than being male, but was often very insecure and still frequently defaulted back to a male persona, mostly out of fear, for more mundane activities like helping ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/05/19/79/ Monogamy is really a sexist word, but it rolls off the tongue a bit easier than "monoandry," so we'll stick with it. It's an ideal many of us aspire to, yet despite all the religious commandments and alimony payments dissuading us from having multiple sexual partners, yet we end up ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/05/07/dating-minus-monogamy/ My sexuality is part of the reason I express my gender the way I do, yet I keep glossing over the topic every time it sneaks into my entries. Yes, I still like girls, so I'm trans and lesbian if you want some labels. Just as important as the gender ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/05/03/whats-this-whole-bondage-thing-anyway/ Long ago, I recognized how ridiculous it was to try so hard to become someone's definition of the "perfect man." Why then, do I currently have such a hard time telling myself that I'll never be the perfect woman either? I've agonized over passing on here before, but the past ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/27/the-perfect-gender/ As I last left off in this sequence, I had ventured out into the bdsm scene, cross-dressed for the first time, just started to question my identity. It was still probably more of a male identity then, since that's what I was "supposed to be." As a little aside, the ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/24/why-erin-the-story-of-my-transition-part-iii/ I had originally introduced myself to my neighbor as a male, and recently ended up re-introducing myself to her as a female. She was a little disappointed because she thought I was attractive as a male, but neither of us were uncomfortable or anything, and conversation went back to normal. ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/21/wait-why-do-you-do-that-if-youre-not-into-men/ A while ago, I wrote about a childhood of repression and fetishism, my subsequent foray into vanilla manhood, and the failure of it all that sent my searching for myself in New York City. I was sidetracked by more current issues, but figured that tonight's a good night to revisit ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/14/why-erin-the-story-of-my-transition-part-ii/ Dating as a girl has been much better than it was for me as any other gender. I'm able to grab attention with my looks as well as my personality and talents, my appearance actually expresses my personality and interests, and nobody expects me to be a "man" anymore. I've ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/11/its-adolescence-all-over-again/ Lots of girls like to go out feeling and looking sexy. I'm no different, so when I'm in the mood I'll throw on a little blouse, knee-length skirt, and walkable heels. Of course, it's silly to do this all the time. This is a mistake that many MtF's make early ... http://www.icame.com/wordpress/index.php/2008/04/07/casual-or-dressy/