The Truth About Using Sex Toys Together

Invariably, there are some common sex myths associated with using sex toys. These sexual myths are usually the first line of defense when a partner presents the idea to their significant other. By moving past these sexual myths and misconceptions, you will be able to enjoy your sex games and improve the intimacy of your relationship at the same time.

Sex Toy Myth #1: Using sex toys means that I can no longer pleasure my partner

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Fun Facts

Almost six out of ten (58%) think it is acceptable for products aimed at improving sex lives to be available in mainstream stores.

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16% of Americans are open to trying vibrators, 23% would like to try an orgasm enhancing gel and 11% would consider aphrodisiacs or pheromones.

As previously mentioned, this may not be the case at all. However, it is important for everyone to understand that if a partner asks to use sex toys, it doesn't mean that your performance has been inadequate. Sex toys help couples overcome their inhibitions and sexual anxiety by providing a sensual learning environment. Through the use of games and massage oils, couples gain a better understanding of intimacy by focusing on touch. By using the more exotic toys, like bondage, couples can experience their desires in a non-threatening way which leads to open communication about their other desires, as well. Inhibitions don't mean much once you've been tied to the bed!

Sex Toy Myth #2: I'll get addicted to sex toys and be unable to achieve orgasm without them.

Bottom line: Not likely. Sex toys are meant to enhance relationships and sexual activity, not make it seem routine. Many couples are concerned, for example, that if they use a vibrator to stimulate the woman's clitoris during intercourse that she will become used to the vibration and other forms of sexual activity, such as oral sex, will not stimulate her anymore. The clitoris is formed by nerve-endings that, when stimulated, will respond; it doesn't matter what the stimulation is. Now, a woman may not respond as quickly to oral sex as she does to the vibrator, but that doesn't have anything to do with being unable to achieve an orgasm. That just means that the orgasm using a vibrator provides a quick jolt to the clitoris as opposed to the slow, sensual stimulation of her partner's tongue.

Sex Toy Myth #3): Using a vibrator will cause damage to my genitals.

There is no physical evidence that this is the case. There have been reports of numbness when vibrators have been used for an extended amount of time; however, this is usually due to heightened sensitivity to the vibrations. To avoid any uncomfortable sensations, experiment with different forms of stimulation during sex play such as clitoral, vaginal, or anal. If you or your partner experiences any numbness or discomfort, avoid applying direct pressure to any part of your genitals. It may be that you're genitals are sensitive and do not need direct contact for stimulation.

If you're very concerned about this, there are other products that couples can use to spice up their sex lives such as games, bath products, and lubes. The fun is in trying everything until you find what works for you. There are so many varieties of adult toys and couple’s games that there is no need for either of you to ever feel uncomfortable. If one sex toy or game does not make you both happy, then move on to another variation. The point is to explore the endless possibilities that exist between the two of you so your sex life, your intimacy level, and your entire relationship can flourish.

Sex Toy Myth #4: A man using sex toys makes him homosexual.

It is extremely important for men understand that indulging in the use of sex toys to enhance your sexual lives in no way relates to your sexual preferences! Stimulating the prostate gland is simply another way for a man to experience pleasure and share it with his partner. Likewise, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that sex toys can't be used. As we've talked about, introducing toys into a relationship can have profound affects on the intimacy of the relationship.

Sex Toy Myth #5: Sexual devices are meant as a substitute in between relationships.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you can't benefit from a sex toy. Again, toys are great ways for couples to increase their intimacy and passion for one another through touch and other stimuli's, as well as, giving couples the chance to experiment and learn more about themselves and their partners.

These are the most common myths and misconceptions associated with couples using sex toys. It's worth mentioning again that the most important thing is to communicate with one another and be sensitive to each others feelings. If something isn't working for you then let your partner know and try something else. The point is to explore the endless possibilities that exist between the two of you.