How to Find, Stimulate and Massage The Prostate

Exploring Anal Play for Men As A Couple Together 


When most people think of anal sex, they think of a man penetrating a woman or they think of homosexual sex. However, this is not necessarily the case in all situations and many men who are not homosexual enjoy anal stimulation and anal play. The fact of the matter is that anal play can be extremely erotic and there are various ways in which a man can experience anal play and orgasm from it as well.


Prostate massage: Why Men Enjoy Anal Play

For men, anal play often leads to prostate stimulation, which can lead to a prostate orgasm. The prostate is an important part of the male reproductive system and it is very rarely ever stimulate directly. Because of this, the prostate massage technique can lead to orgasmic contractions that cause a man to ejaculate. This is not your typical orgasm for a male and it can be extremely sexually satisfying.


The Male G-Spot

The prostate is generally considered to be the male g-spot. However, in actuality the prostate-perineum is the actual male g-spot, which is located in the same area of the prostate. Massaging this area can produce a prostate orgasm that many men enjoy.


Another reason that men enjoy a prostate massage is that they enjoy the “full” feeling from having either an anal toy or finger inside them. The same is true for why women enjoy vaginal intercourse.


Preparation for a Prostate Massage

With any type of anal penetration, it’s important that you follow a few ground rules, as preparation is key. First, be sure that you have plenty of lubrication on hand. It is best to use a lubricant that is water based. Secondly, you need to have some sort of protection, so the giver of the prostate massage should wear a surgical glove, finger condom or finger puppet toy. This is important because the fingernails can cause micro-tears and harm the nerve endings in the rectum.


Before anal play, it is always a good idea for the receiver to empty his bowels and urinate. Afterwards, he should take a warm bath to cleanse as well as for relaxation. Relaxation is key in anal play and prostate stimulation, as you don’t want to tear the anus or rectum. Taking a hot bath usually does the trick. Next, you want to continue helping the receiver relax, either through a nice massage or through sexual stimulation.


How to Stimulate the Prostate

When the proper preparations have been made, the giver should begin massaging with a finger around the anus. Using the index and middle finger, gently rub and stroke the perineum. The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the rectum. This will provide a variety of sensations as this is near the male g-spot. As the receiver becomes aroused, slowly insert the finger into the anus with plenty of lubrication. Do this gently, careful not to force it. Once the finger is inserted, wait a moment to allow them to get accustomed to the fingers in the anus and then located the prostate. Insert the fingers about an inch or two in the anus and feel for a bulb like protrusion in the anal wall. This is the prostate. When pressure is applied, there will be a variety of sensations and by varying the pressure you can vary the sensations. If you have an adult sex toy available, this can also be used to provide the stimulation instead of the fingers. There are many prostate stimulation sex toys on the market that you can take advantage of.


A Prostate Massage & Intimacy

A prostate massage can be a very intimate experience. This can be performed facing each other or from behind. During the prostate stimulation technique there can be a variety of other things happening as well. For instance, the giver can also masturbate the receiver with the other hand by applying stimulation to the penis. Many men enjoy oral sex at the same time.


Prostate Massage: Fun, Safety and Communication

Communication is very important during this process. Ask him what he likes and dislikes until he has a prostate stimulated orgasm. Cleanliness afterwards is also important. If any toys are used, be certain that you clean them with soap and water before storing. Or, you can use a condom for easy clean up.


This experience should be one that is both intimate, enjoyable and will bring you closer together sexually as a couple.   »


Fun Facts about Prostate Stimulation

 The prostate is often called the “male G-spot”. Men describe prostate stimulation as being comparable to when a woman’s G-spot is stimulated.

Did you know?

 A large percentage of heterosexual men enjoy anal play, enjoying a prostate massage does not determine sexual orientation. According to the NHSLS survey 90 percent of men 18–44years of age responded that they think of themselves as heterosexual. About 2.3 percent of men answered homosexual, 1.8 percent bisexual.