Anal Penetration: How to Use Anal Toys


Anal Toys: Introduction to Anal Sex and Anal Play

Anal sex is a healthy way to explore your sexuality. Anal sex focuses on more than a physical way to stimulate the body, but also a psychological one. An even better way to explore anal play is through the use of anal sex toys for anal stimulation and anal penetration.

Theoretically, any sex toy can be used for anal play and anal insertions; however, there are sex toys that are designed specifically for anal play. There are some safety issues in regards to anal toys, so it is a good idea to follow some basic rules of anal play when using anal toys.


Basic Tips for Choosing the Right Anal Toys

There are a variety of sex toys available on the market including anal dildos, butt plugs, anal beads and more:

Anal Dildos

Anal dildos are designed for penetration and do not vibrate. Anal dildos do not have any seams or sharp edges and have a flared base that keeps them from going all the way in the anus. Dildos that are designed specifically for anal penetration are generally smaller. There are also those made specifically for men and shaped to stimulate the prostate.


Anal Beads

Anal beads or “Thai beads” are a series of beads connected by a cord or string. These tend to have several beads that all increase in size progressively, while there are those that have all the same size of beads. These beads are designed to stimulate the sphincter muscles.


Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are designed to be inserted in the anus and left there. Many people will insert butt plugs and leave them in place during sex. There are also butt plugs that vibrate. Most have a wide base and flare at the end.

Fun Facts

 10 percent of heterosexual couples regularly have anal penetration.

Did you know?

  34 percent of men and 30 percent of women reported engaging in anal sex at least once.


Preparation for Anal Play: Grooming and Cleanliness

For both parties involved, it is necessary to urinate and empty your bowels prior to anal sex. After doing that, be sure to take a bath or shower and ensure your cleanliness. It is also important that you clean your anal toys as well. You can use a condom on anal dildos or male dildos for easy clean up. If you are both taking part in the anal play, be sure to use new condoms when you change receivers. You don’t want to spread any bacteria around. Once you are done with your anal play, be certain to wash your anal sex toys thoroughly with soap and water or wash them in the dishwasher, if it is safe to do so.


Never, ever place anything from the anus into the vagina. The bacteria that live in the anus are very different than the bacteria that live in the vagina and doing this can wreak havoc in the vagina. Do everything you possibly can to avoid spreading bacteria. It is also not wise to go from the anus to the mouth either. These should not have any seams and lubrication is still essential with them.


Anal Penetration: Relaxation & Lubrication

Lubrication is very, very important. Thicker lubricants tend to be better for anal play because they don spread too thinly and tend to stay where you put them. It is also important to ensure that the anal sex toy has a flared base to keep it from being lost in the rectum and to ensure that the toy does not have any seams. Seams can be sharp and cause tears in the anal wall.


It is important that the receiver is able to relax and that the giver takes their time. The lining of the anus is very sensitive and lubricant is essential because the anus does not produce its own lubricant like the vagina does. Do whatever you need to prior to anal play to ensure relaxation. Take a shower or bath and perhaps have your partner give you a massage before commencing.


First Time Anal Sex

There are various pleasure points around the anus and anal stimulation can be very arousing. The anus also responds to fullness and pressure feelings. Both men and women can either be sexually stimulated through anal play or through anal penetration with a anal toy or finger.


If you’re having anal sex for the first time be sure to take the time to relax and explore your anus with your partner. Be sure they use plenty of lube and allow them touch, lick and play around the anus. They can then slowly begin anal insertion with a finger, toy or penis. Keep your mind open to all of the possibilities and communicate your likes and dislikes. Breathe, relax and if something hurts, don’t force it. Pain means something is not quite right for you. Remember, communication is key.